While there’s no shortage of reasons to dump a guy – he’s bad in bed, his feet stink, etc. – you can usually work on the little things if you really dig him. Right? But how do you know when it’s truly time to cut ties with your man? There are some things that just aren’t OK for any self-respecting female to tolerate. Here’s a list of 10 reasons to ditch your dude – and reclaim your dignity: - He cheated. Sorry, ladies. There just isn’t a way around this one. I hate to be a naysayer, but if he did it once, he’ll probably do it again. There’s plenty of fish in the sea. Don’t waste your time with a slippery one who can’t be faithful. Horses can be prone to infidelity when they’re bored, so be careful if you’re attached to a hoofed hottie.
- He lies. Big, small, medium-sized – a lie is a lie. A liar is proof you can’t believe the good things he says, even if you want to. If you’re a Rabbit, you might turn a blind eye to the people you love, but watch out for Pinocchio. He won’t ever become a real man, much less a real boy, if he’s constantly stretching the truth.
- He doesn’t let you do certain things or hang out with certain people. Does your boyfriend feel more like a controlling father? Snakes can be a bit jealous, so make sure your man isn’t keeping tabs on you. Last time I checked, we women were granted equal rights. This includes picking our friends and freely going about our business how we choose. Don’t put up with someone who wants to keep you on a leash.
- He cares about your appearance more than you do. Any man who cares about physical perfection is a dangerous breed. I’m pretty sure most of us are already acutely aware of our flaws, thanks to our image-obsessed culture. Rabbits can be snobby about appearances – don’t hang around a guy who tells you what to wear or doesn’t let you leave the house without makeup.
- He’s rude to your friends or your family. One of the biggest red flags is a man who’s rude to the people you care about. Even if he treats you like a princess, disrespecting your posse shows a complete lack of consideration. Tigers can sometimes be blunt, so make sure your man curbs his tongue. Otherwise, kick him to the curb.
- He chooses his hobbies and interests over you. Sure, it’s great to have separate interests. But does his video game obsession or Saturday pub-crawling with the guys always take priority over time with you? Rats can sometimes be consumed with their hobbies to the point of obsession. Don’t wait for a guy to make you his hobby. You’ll be waiting forever.
- He refuses to talk about a future with you. We all know guys can get squeamish when we want talk about the future. But a man worth having will be happy to at least talk about commitment, marriage and kids. Pigs can sometimes struggle with settling down. If he’s not willing to at least discuss the possibility, it’s time to say sayonara.
- He doesn’t call or show up when he says he will. This is a big one. How can you ever depend on your guy if he doesn’t keep his word? Sometimes things come up, but a chronic flaker is definitely a sign he’s not mature enough for a relationship. If you’re dating a Sheep, he might have his head in the clouds. Make sure he follows through or find someone who you can rely on.
- He criticizes you. Aren’t relationships supposed to be about support and encouragement? If your man is constantly knocking you down a peg, he’s a threat to your self-esteem and self-worth. You don’t deserve it. A good boyfriend tells you how wonderful you are, not what you need to change. Be on guard if you’re with a Rooster. These feathery creatures can be known to nit-pick.
- He refuses to work on himself or your relationship. Even if you let everything else slide, the biggest non-negotiable is a guy who isn’t willing to change. I’m not talking about his hair or wardrobe, but his character and his relationship with you. Any guy who can’t own up to his flaws and try to become a better man just isn’t worth your time. Oxen men can be super stubborn and stuck in their ways. You don’t need perfection, but he’s got to think you’re worth the effort to change. If he doesn’t, then he’s not worth your effort.
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