So, you and your honey have parted ways. If you made it through the initial split, bravo! But what happens now? While breakups are never easy, it can be even harder to deal with the mess they leave behind. Here are six important things to avoid post-split so things don’t get any muckier than they already are: - Communication with your ex. Seems obvious, right? But, we often start calling, emailing, or texting soon enough. Sometimes it’s out of loneliness, or maybe things seem unfinished and we want to hash out the details – again. Either way, don’t do it. If you’re a Rat, you might be more prone to pick up the phone (you love to talk) but resist the urge. Rabbits also may feel the pangs of loneliness more than others. If you get the itch to dial, call your best friend, or even the operator, instead.
- Hanging on to romantic mementos. Those ticket stubs from the baseball game you went to last summer? His oversized college jersey you adopted as your loungewear? Toss it! Pigs, especially, might get upset about getting rid of sentimental objects, but it’s the only way to truly move on. You can’t make room in your life for anyone new if you’re hanging on to the old.
- Going on a slew of immediate dates. Your friends may tell you to “get back out there,” but you’re in no position to start dating until you’ve had some time to heal. If you’re a Horse, you might jump the gun a bit and want to move on fast. But it will probably only be depressing and exhausting trying to juggle a new romantic interest while you’re still getting over your ex.
- Trash-talking your ex. Yes, you might wish a horrible death to the person who broke your heart. Just avoid telling anyone that. While you might be feeling strong negative emotions about your ex, gossip and trash-talking only come back to bite you in the end. If you have the same friends, be careful about getting others to choose sides. Snakes might find this tough – you slippery creatures sometimes act devious without even knowing it. Roosters, too, might have a tough time keeping their opinions to themselves.
- Isolation. Whatever you do, don’t hole yourself up at home every night. It’s fine to take some down time to deal with your feelings, but try to get out with friends and make an attempt to have fun. If you’re a Tiger, use that boundless energy to try new things and socialize your pain away. Before you know it, you’ll be out of your sweat pants and off the couch – for good!
- Beating yourself up. Breakups are never a one-way street. Even if you were the one that caused it, resist all temptations to blame and shame yourself for the things you did wrong. Sensitive Dragons and fragile Rabbits have to be careful about falling into negative self-talk. If things are meant to work out, they will. For now, just focus on yourself. Dwelling on your mistakes won’t bring your ex back.
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