Relationship Insight Reading for Back
Birth Date and Time: August 04, 1961  -- 7 PM
Chinese astrology has been used for over a thousand years to help select marriage partners. The following reading uses its time-tested techniques to analyze your relationships. Specific areas covered include your friendships, love and marriage, and sex (Part I and Part II). Part I focuses on animal signs and Part II elements. Beyond this is a discussion of how you might best go about making good decisions when it comes to seeking a partner (Part III) and a look at your future in terms of your chance of success (Part IV).

Relationships are complicated, and as you go through this reading, you will see your situation is likewise. With this in mind there are two things you should understand. No one comment says it all. You thus cannot focus on one item alone but, rather, on recurring themes. Secondly, people behave differently in various situations and even, occasionally, in similar ones. Do not, then, be surprised if you encounter one or two contradictory statements. Just recognize that is a symptom of the complexity of human behavior and motivation. Ultimately it is up to you to resolve your desires, which will sometimes be in conflict with each other.
Part 1 - Your Signs
Year: Metal Ox
Month: Wood Sheep
Day: Earth Snake
Hour: Wood Dog
This section looks at the Ox's, and therefore your, relationships from three different perspectives: friendship love and marriage, and sex. There are many similarities, but they provide different insights.

If you are a typical, Ox sign person, relationships may prove to be challenging. Self reliance and perseverance may help you succeed in other areas, but in this one you may be best served to humble yourself and secure some outside advice.
The Ox in relationships
As an Ox sign person you are likely to be steadfast and willing to carry more than your fair share of the load in any relationship. You thus tend to be the stable one and the first to take on extra responsibilities. Of all the signs yours is the one most fitting the Herculean image of carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders..

You are probably self reliant with an independent streak. You may not need a lot of emotional support, but you probably do not give that much either. Even those close to you may see you as being cold sometimes.

And, it’s not unusual to find you unapproachable. Regardless of how good hearted you might be, it may be hard for you to totally escape the Ox’s tendency to be cold and materialistic. Sometimes it appears to us that you are more interested in things than people, even when that is not the way it really is.

It is very possible you are the strong, silent type. This could hamper communications, so you want to make sure you keep channels open and exchange enough information to avoid misunderstandings. Let people know that your hard work is meant to contribute to their success and happiness as well as yours..

Normally you are likely to be patient and gentle, which contributes to harmonious relationships. On the other hand, you can be stubborn and, when angered, a bit violent. You are not likely to back down in a conflict, even to maintain the peace. This can result in occasional clashes of will.
The Ox in Love and Marriage
When it comes to romance, the Ox is the one most likely to choose the wrong partner. If that happens, you may bury yourself in work and avoid relationships for a rather long time. You should always get an outside opinion from someone you trust and who is wise before you make a commitment. Humble yourself and avoid serious disappointment.

If you fit the Ox stereotype you may be something of an introvert and rather plodding in your approach. This could make courting and dating a challenge. You will have to make an effort to let potential partners see your many, outstanding Ox qualities such as steadfastness, determination and dependability. And, they still may have to initiate the relationship.

You are likely to be a devoted partner. You will defend your family with everything in your power.

You probably consider your home your palace. Do, however, fight any tendency to act like royalty.

As you are probably practical and methodical, your home is likely to feature an assortment of furniture with natural tones and obvious functionality. Lots of house plants enhance the natural look of your home. And, your garden will also reflect your attention to detail.
The Ox and Sex
You may not do all that much flirting or seducing. And, romantic mood building is not something with which you may be comfortable.

On the other hand, you probably do enjoy sex. You may be methodical and a plodder, but your endurance could make you a formidable and desired sex partner. You tend to be physical and sensual, which also contributes to your being a satisfying lover, even though you may not be that creative or willing to try new things in bed..

Unless you are in the heat of passion of a new love, it is not that easy to get you in the mood. The best way is probably a slow, earthy, sensual seduction.

The hour of the Ox is from 1am to 3am. This is the time you are most likely to be in the mood for sex and to do your best love making.
Metal Ox
Metal combined with the Ox creates one of the strongest, most determined signs. You may also have a tendency to be stubborn and insensitive at times.
You could be hard on your friends. You may, for example, try to dominate your friendships or, at least, strive to exert control in most situations.
Love and Marriage
You are likely to show determination and resourcefulness when it comes to both the courtship and marriage phases of a relationship. There is also a good chance you could be a jealous and possessive lover and spouse.
More than others of your sign you could desire to dominate your partner in bed. When you determine it is time, you will expect your partner to be there for you. Romance may or may not be part of the equation.
Supplementary Signs
The following are descriptions of your Month, Day and Hour (if available). Each of these contribute to your overall personality but are less important than your Year sign.
This section looks at the Sheep's, and therefore your, relationships from three different perspectives: friendship love and marriage, and sex. There are many similarities, but they provide different insights.

If you are a typical Sheep sign person, relationships are very important in your life. They hopefully provide needed emotional support and a sense of security. Generally you are happy to let your partner play the dominant role.
The Sheep in relationships
The affectionate Sheep is one of the warmest, loving and tender people you will know. You are thus probably good hearted and genuinely care about others. In general you readily forgive others and rarely hold grudges.

With these qualities it is not surprising you do well in social situations. You are likely to be friendly and congenial and beautifully tactful in your choice of words. It is not in your nature to willingly hurt anyone with meanness or a sharp tongue.

In truth you can be quite timid and sometimes have difficulty summoning the courage to stand up for your rights. If you are not careful, people will take advantage of you, including those close to you. This is especially true since you are likely to be kind hearted and generous. You would be wise to be careful when choosing the company you keep.

Your changeable nature means you can be fickle when it comes to your likes and dislikes. Some people probably see you as unpredictable. At your worst you are capricious when it comes to your responsibilities meaning, you are not always that reliable. You need to watch out for this tendency so as not to strain your relationships.

Although you probably enjoy being with your friends, you also need time alone to relax and restore your inner calm. This is because you tend to be sensitive and empathetic and thus take on the problems and concerns of others.
The Sheep in Love and Marriage
The Yin (feminine) sign of the Sheep makes for a natural domestic. Expect to find all the softer side has to offer when it comes to decorations. Fresh smelling flowers, delicate curtains, and a warm fire burning in the fireplace are not uncommon in your household. You are a team player and thus very comfortable co-existing with family members.
The Sheep and Sex
If you are a typical Sheep sign person, you want a lot of romance along with your sex. Also, more than other people, you probably want sex within a meaningful, if not attached, relationship. You may even use sex as a means to secure a long term commitment.

You appreciate tenderness and a go slow approach to sex. Foreplay is probably important to you, especially that characterized by gentle stroking.

Your partner will no doubt appreciate the fact that you are a giving lover. More likely than not you aim to please and will do your best to make the experience a deeply satisfying one.

You may not be the most adventurous person in your daily life, but when it comes to the bedroom, that is another story. You may even enjoy experimenting with various forms of erotic arousal.

The hour of the Sheep is from 1pm to 3pm. This is the time you are most likely to be in the mood for sex and to do your best love making.
This section looks at the Snake's, and therefore your, relationships from three different perspectives: friendship love and marriage, and sex. There are many similarities, but they provide different insights.

If you are a typical Snake sign person, your best relationship may be the one with yourself, as you are likely to be introspective. Also, you tend to choose when and where to give your best. When you do enter into one with another person, your partner will not be disappointed.
The Snake in relationships
Although you are capable of thoroughly enjoying relationships, they are not a high priority for you in and of themselves. This is because, as a Snake, you probably are basically a private person and enjoy your own company more than that of other people. You can easily lose yourself in your thoughts and derive great pleasure from so doing.

People should not be surprised when it appears you are taking a personal interest in them. You are happy to meet new people and learn new things. They should, however, be careful not to become too attached to you. With your almost insatiable appetite for new experiences it is likely you tire of other people long before they tire of you.

You tend to be a live and let live type person. If people treat you right and earn your respect, you will return the favor and add immeasurably to their quality of life.

On the other had, more than any other sign, the Snake believes in revenge. You do not normally get mad, but you usually like to get even. Crossing you can thus be a dangerous move. Though you may not demonstrate any anger upon learning about a wrong done to you, that does not mean it has been forgotten or forgiven.

You are likely to dominate most of your relationships but not in an authoritarian style. If you do, it would be by means of your commanding presence and, or, charm and charisma. You may, however, be able to intimidate your friends at will but use that ability sparingly.
The Snake in Love and Marriage
n a marriage relationship, nevertheless, you will be faithful as long as your partner has ambition and makes an honest attempt to grow and to keep up with your ever-expanding interests. The secretive nature of the Snake makes their home one of subtle surprise. Your furnishings are usually of the highest quality while leaving detail to be discovered. We have to be careful how we tread through your household as we might unknowingly offend and become subject to your occasionally revengeful nature. Ah, but the ambiance and luxury is well worth the risk.
The Snake and Sex
You are not a flirt but you probably have more than a little capability when it comes to the art of seduction. You may use this power sparingly, but when you do it is almost always effective.

On the other hand you may enjoy sex greatly and desire it often. Your lover will be expected to perform, both in terms of quality and quantity. And, your partner better enjoy it as much as you do, or your satisfaction will be diminished.

You probably enjoy lots of physical contact and try to wrap as many limbs around your partner as you can. Foreplay for you is likely to begin with lengthy bodily contact involving as great a surface as possible.

If you are a typical Snake and make the effort, your technique will be remarkable. It would not be surprising if you studied the ancient arts of Taoist and Tantric sex.

The hour of the Snake is from 9am to 11am. This is the time you are most likely to be in the mood for sex and to do your best love making.
This section looks at the Dog's, and therefore your, relationships from three different perspectives: friendship love and marriage, and sex. There are many similarities, but they provide different insights.

If you are a typical Dog sign person, relationships, especially family, are likely to be the most important things in your life. You are more likely to make this known to your partners through your deeds rather than words, but your acts will probably reflect the greatest loyalty and devotion.
The Dog in relationships
You may be slow to make friends, but once you call a person friend that is a bond you will honor as best you can.

Your sense of loyalty, plus your sincerity and kindness, make you a most desirable friend. In fact you are almost as concerned and protective of your friends as you are of your family. You are also altruistic by nature and prefer to use your material gains to help others.

You are probably most often slow to anger and quick to recover. You are probably not one to nag and nitpick. You also tend to be in control of your emotions and may have excellent powers of discernment. In other words, you choose your battles carefully. These qualities make you easy to get along with on a day to day basis

When it comes to individual people, you are usually slow to form judgments; however, there may often be a narrow mindedness to your way of thinking. Once you decide a person is friend or foe, that is it.

You may tend to be thick skinned, but you can be extremely suspicious or defensive when a friend is potentially threatened or actually attacked either verbally or physically. Sometimes your anger may flare up almost instantaneously and violently as your protective urge moves you to action.

Your sense of justice often causes you to make judgments about others and to criticize their actions or motivations. By nature you’re not exactly a diplomatic critic---even when dealing with the ones you most love.
The Dog in Love and Marriage
You are not a materialist but rather one who derives the most pleasure from love and family. On the other hand, your reserved nature can actually be a negative in family matters. You tend to be subdued, not one given to continuous displays of affection. There may however be times when family members require more warmth than you provide. Simple and homely is what you can expect from the household of the Dog. Dog's like to lay back and relax, so the furniture you find will be conducive to naps and downtime. Being the responsible type, the Dog will promptly perform needed maintenance and generally keep the house neat and clean.
The Dog and Sex
If you are a typical Dog sign person, you may not be that confident about your love making ability. You could need reassuring partners. And, if you are reticent, they should also be somewhat assertive.

You are likely to perform at your best in a comfortable, homey environment. And, it is unlikely you are involved with fetishes.

You are probably a very giving lover. In other words you put your lover's needs ahead of yours. You do your best to please. In fact your partner's climax is necessary if you are to achieve your own height of ecstasy.

Styles and positions are not likely to be as important to you as intimacy and emotional comfort. That being said, doing it doggie style probably appeals to you.

The hour of the Dog is from 7pm to 9pm. This is the time you are most likely to be in the mood for sex and to do your best love making.
Year Element Metal
Of all the elements Metal is cold and strong. The strengths you are likely to contribute are determination and purposefulness. The downside is a tendency to be unfeeling and domineering.
Metal in Friendship
The Metal person can at times be unyielding and brutally frank. On occasion you might become ruthlessly direct and coldly impersonal. You tend to be opinionated and to react sharply when someone contradicts you. This means you probably require a partner with a thick skin and a compromising nature.

At times you can display an uncompromising rigidity, a my way or the highway attitude. Once you decide on a course of action, your stubbornness creates in you a lemming mentality. In other words you will continue heading towards a cliff even when your partner warns you of danger.

You will find your relationships most satisfying when you can overcome this tendency by trusting others, giving their suggestions a fair hearing, and generally working as a team player, albeit a team headed by you.

You make a great partner in a conflict situation, as you do not easily back down when challenged. You are likely to be a fighter, someone who will not give up when the going gets tough.
Love and Marriage
You are likely to be persistent in pursuing someone to whom you are attracted. And, you will display this same tenacity when it comes to sustaining an ongoing relationship, especially a marriage.

You probably carry your own weight in any relationship, as there is a good chance you are rock solid with a lot of self confidence and determination.

As a general rule you like to take the lead and expect your partner to follow. You are likely to want to dominate your partner. And, when it comes to disciplining the children, you will more than rise up to the challenge.
The old song says: what does love have to do with it? More than those of other signs you are likely to enjoy sex regardless how much love is involved. You also probably want to determine when, where and how it is to be done.
Element Mix
Your element distribution is: Wood 3, Fire 2, Earth 6, Metal 2, and Water 0

You probably are more than willing to make your fair share of compromises to help a relationship get over the rough spots and able to effectively deal with change.
You may have sufficient charisma and vitality to attract potential partners and to keep a relationship interesting over the long term.
You are a solid, dependable partner; however, you have a stubborn side that probably interferes with your making the compromises necessary to maintain healthy relationships. And, you lack charisma, making it difficult for you to attract potential mates.
You may have sufficient drive and fighting spirit to do your share in weathering the storms that come up over the course of a long relationship.
A total shortfall of Water means you have difficulty with communications and interpersonal relations, thus complicating relationships. This makes it difficult to both create and maintain them.
PART III - Seeking Your Match
Traits to Look for
Stability - You crave stability in life, find people who can fulfill your craving.

Trustworthiness - Above all you need a partner you can trust. You not only value loyalty, but you also can quickly turn against someone who has wronged you.

Traits to Avoid
Emotionality - People who are too emotionally draining could zap all your energy so avoid them if possible.

Stubbornness - You’re likely to have lots of clashes with an obstinate person. Excessive stubbornness is definitely a trait to avoid.

Recommended Signs
According to Chinese tradition you would do best to look for partners born in years of the Snake and Rooster. That would be four or eight years older or younger than you. These offer you the greatest chance of success.

Unfortunately you do not have many other, good options. Rat (one year older or 11 years younger) and Rabbit (two years younger or ten years older) are the only two.
Signs to Avoid
You absolutely need to avoid people born during the year of the Sheep, six years older or younger than you. This may not be easy, as it is not unusual to find a fatal attraction involving opposing signs. You would be wise to avoid this trap.

Other signs that could give you a lot of trouble are the Tiger (one year younger or 11 years older), Dragon (three years younger or nine years older), and Horse (five years younger or seven years older). The odds are seriously against relationships with these lasting and bringing you the happiness you seek.
Tips for Attracting the Right Partner
No one should ever try to change their basic personality. Still, there are things you can do to enhance the qualities you have. Put to work your determination and fighting spirit as persistency will help you get the prize.

If you want to attract someone who looks good, you need to look good yourself. Take a little extra care with your dress and appearance. Stay natural and pay attention to the details.

The same goes for ambition. If you desire a partner who is not going to just sit on the couch and vegetate, you need to be continually improving yourself as well. Read, continue your education, and engage in at least one hobby that enhances your abilities.
The Future
General Prognosis
As an Ox sign person you are likely to be disappointed at least once, and probably several times before you create a lasting relationship. This is usually due to choosing the wrong person for a partner. Given the length of time you spend before making a commitment and recovering from failed relationships, success for you could come later rather than sooner. You are, however, likely to persist and eventually create a solid, rewarding partnership.
Chance for Success in Relationships
Your chart indicators for family happiness are high average.

Success in this area will most likely be up to you. If you make good choices and nurture your relationships, they should provide a lasting and rewarding experience.
Best Time for Relationships
School Years
Your chi (energy/life force) level is about average during your school years. You can probably create and maintain rewarding relationships.

This is probably a normal time when it comes to interpersonal relations. You should have enough energy to forge relationships, including dating, while effectively pursuing your studies. You would, however, be best served to wait until you complete your education before making any wedding plans. In fact too much intimacy at this time could detract from your ability to focus on your primary job of preparing yourself for the future. This is because, given your moderate chi level, you are vulnerable to overextending yourself.
Early Adulthood
After you finish your schooling your chi level will be above average. Your relationships should be a positive factor as you cross the bridge from youth to adulthood.

It is extremely fortunate your chi is strong at this critical time in your life. You should have plenty of energy to both establish a successful career and to create a family. Timing is not critical here, as the entire period is favorable. You just need to make good choices when it comes to the people with whom you create relationships. You have the potential to be very successful, so you might want to surround yourself with quality friends and lovers. Depending on how high your goals are, you should choose accordingly.

At the time you might have the greatest potential for success you will probably have sufficient energy to accomplish your goals. You have it in your power to establish and nourish supportive relationships.

This is a good time to evaluate your relationships and make sure they are supportive of you and your goals, as probably have the energy to achieve them. It can be a good time to raise a family if that is your chosen path. With an average chi level you want to be sure you are not overextending yourself. You are probably best served by deepening existing relationships rather than trying to create a lot more new ones. Basically success is up to you, your hard work and wise choices.